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008 190514s2017 nyu g 000 0 eng d
020 $a9781501129612 (pbk.) :$cNT$560
082 04$a158.2$222
100 1 $aLerner, Harriet Goldhor.
245 10$aWhy won't you apologize? :$bhealing big betrayals and everyday hurts /$cHarriet Lerner, Ph. D.
246 30$aHealing big betrayals and everyday hurts.
260 $aNew York :$bTouchstone,$c2017.
300 $ax, 195 pages ;$c21 cm.
505 0 $a"Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language--I’m sorry--and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connectionsand restoring trust. Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies—and why some people won’t give them—for more than two decades. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that bring home how much the simple apology mattersand what is required for healing when the hurt we’ve inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful “I’m sorry” and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury. Why Won’tYou Apologize? also addresses the compelling needs of the injured party—the one who has been hurt by someone who won’t apologize, tell the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, as well as why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own up. She helps the injured person resist pressure to forgive too easily and challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only pathto peace of mind. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right,"--Amazon.com.
650 0$aApologizing.
650 0$aInterpersonal conflict.
650 0$aInterpersonal relations.